Your divorce is final. The papers are signed and filed with the court. You or your ex-husband have moved out of the house. You are now alone and need to find your “new normal”. This is the time when Self-Care and Self-Love is essential. You’ve been through a war, a trauma that will affect you deeply for many months and perhaps years to come. It’s time to step back and take a moment to begin to heal yourself. That process will take time, support, guidance and love. The first step in healing is to stay aware of your negative thoughts…those thoughts that creep into your nightly dreams. The thoughts that say, “you will never make it”….”you are a failure”…”you are not worthy of love” These negative thoughts are the negative ego pulling back down. It’s time for you to say “Enough!…I am enough! I am loveable! I am capable! I deserve to be happy!” The first step in walking OUT OF THE SHADOWS and into your own light is to begin to practice self-care. Your self-care is integral to your healing. It is how you will begin to refill your self-confidence…refill your purpose….refill your passions…refill all those things that became empty through no fault of your own during the divorce…or even perhaps during your marriage. Stay mindful of your thoughts. Guard them carefully. Only allow positive, self-affirming thoughts to saturate your heart!